There are six ways to form a close bond with anyone. From the book, Hold Onto Your Kids, Gordon Neufeld's Six stages of attachment:
Proximity- Spend time together focused on each other
Sameness- If you only have one thing in common that you enjoy, share in it together and make it special. Celebrate sameness.
Belonging/Loyalty- Always stick up for each other
Significance- Show each other how important you are to each other
Love- Express your love often
Being Known- Get to know and respect their likes and dislikes
Each of these offers a variety of ways to fortify attachment and form close bonds.
Proximity- Spend time together focused on each other
Sameness- If you only have one thing in common that you enjoy, share in it together and make it special. Celebrate sameness.
Belonging/Loyalty- Always stick up for each other
Significance- Show each other how important you are to each other
Love- Express your love often
Being Known- Get to know and respect their likes and dislikes
Each of these offers a variety of ways to fortify attachment and form close bonds.
Heading up the mountain on a 4-wheeler to camp overnight. "You the best Dad in the whole wide world!"
When I have focused on the six stages of attachment, I feel closer to my friends and family.
Thanks for stopping by!
Love,
Alison
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