Finally, I saw her work her magic in a way that might explain part of it. Michelle's granddaughter was fussy during her naptime when everyone was trying to take wedding photos. Grandma Michelle picked up the two year old after the mom was struggling to keep her off the ground. Michelle held her and talked quietly as she walked away from the picture taking. She told the little girl how proud she was of her and how she knew the little girl could be 'mature'. I don't know the words of encouragement she used...something like 'i know you can do it, you are special' But it worked! The little girl stopped fussing and was able to finish the picture taking! I thought because it was naptime, good behavior was impossible and trying to get it would be futile. But Michelle got it, with love.
Calmness. Love. Expectations. Encouragement.
Encouragement is important. For everyone.
On Saturday we watched a show about the Kona triathalon. The athletes thrive on the encouragement of the crowds on the sidelines that cheer them on. They ran faster and better with the encouragement. It was inspiring!
Encouragement is a form of coaching.
I want to encourage our son! I want to be good at coaching!
That reminds me of emotion coaching.
I love Gottman's emotion coaching! It works! I need to review it.