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Causes of sleeplessness

11/22/2010

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Taken from Chapter eight of Sleepless In America, by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka-  In a study conducted by Dr A. Kahn, researchers found that 58% of children's sleeplessness was attributed to little decisions.  So what are these little decisions that matter so much?  There are four main categories:
1.  Irregular schedule
2.  Light
3.  Lack of exercise or exercise at the wrong time
4. Stimulants
Together they create the ILLS of the night, playing tricks on your child's body clock, and your own.  As you review them, think about each individual in your family.  How sensitive your child is to the disruptions depends upon her temperament and current tension level.  One child might be highly susceptible to even the slightest alterations, while another seems to go more easily with the flow.  And when tensions are high, changes that upset the body clock are even more detrimental, because the body is already on alert.  High-tension levels combined with a body clock out of equilibrium can make bedtime an event to dread hours before it arrives.
Understanding why our children fight us about sleeping and why they need extra efforts to help them to sleep can help us to have empathy for them instead of frustration and anger.  With our empathy and love, it is easier to combat the tension and ills that rob our children of needed sleep.   Then we can sleep!!!!  We need sleep to be able to have empathy and love!!!!!   I hope you sleep well tonight!!!!
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Bedtime Basic Notion

11/20/2010

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Just as we have to teach our children how to deal with sometimes wild emotions, we have to teach our children how to calm down to be able to sleep.  Most children don't instinctively know how to deal with their emotions or how to get to sleep on their own.  We need to help them!

  We cannot expect them to transtion from the hectic, achievement-oriented, frenetic pace of modern life to a restful, sleeping state just because we yell at them to go to sleep.  It doesn't work that way.  Trust me, I know!  We have to show empathy and provide a restful, calm experience for them at bedtime so they can leave the stressful events of the day behind and calm down so they can fall asleep.  We need to work with our children to  learn what it takes for them to calm down enough.   Some kids needs hours of care and preparation at first, sorry!   The more we teach them calming methods at bedtime through routine and repitition, the less they will rely on us to get them to a restful sleeping state.  It is possible!!!

Sweet dreams!!  More to come later!!    My favorite book full of tips:  Sleepless in America by Mary Sheedy Kurchinka
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Choose Words Carefully

11/5/2010

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I have found that it is important to choose my words carefully when I care about the outcome of a situation.  The more I care about how it ends up, the more carefully I choose my words.     For example, if I say,  "Are you ready to put on your pajamas now?"  No.  Ok, now what?   I get a different outcome than if I say,  "I want you to put on your pajamas, now."   "Please put on your pajamas, now."

I can see that most visitors to this site have checked into the category, "Bedtime"  and found this measely little tip.  I have a book I want to review with you called, "Sleepless In America"  by Mary Sheedy Kurchinka, one of my favorite authors!  She gives many tips on how to help children calm down enough to go to sleep.    I want to get to it, TODAY,  but I feel that the first book I am reviewing is most important to successful parenting.  If you have questions you can ask in the comment section about your little ones, I will consult my books and give you an answer.  I'd love to try to find help! 
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