Now I know better!!!!! Slowly I am changing. It is tough, but slowly I am seeing results.
Instead of focusing on how he is making me miserable, I focus on him. Why is he upset? What does he need? How can I help? Sometimes all I can do is validate his mood and say, "You look upset. I'm sorry, Honey. It's no fun to be upset." When he feels my love even though he is upset, he is grateful. He comes in for a hug a lot quicker than when I am upset with him. And luckily for me, he still likes a hug! I hope he always will!