Here is some hope for you: Keep trying! Congratulations for trying! There is no such thing as a perfect parent! There is no such thing as the perfect technique that will apply to every situatiuon! What works for me may not work for you and vice versa. But we all keep trying. We are trying to find the best ways to help our kids be happy, responsible and well-liked. We can only do our best with what we have!
Nothing in life is more challenging and rewarding and everlasting.
Congratulations! Keep it up!!!