Children need to know what will make us stop loving them; it is essential to their survival! They don't know we love them unless we tell them. Even when we say we love them, our actions don't always match what we say. When children feel secure that they will always be loved, they have more peace and will be more calm.
I am only human, just like everybody else. So, even as a parent trying to be "perfect", there is an end to my patience. There is an end to my tolerance. There is an end to my ability to help. There is an end to my willingness to do for my son what he can do for himself. There is an end to what I will buy for my son. There is an end to the financial support we will give him. There is an end to my happiness and satisfaction about his behavior. That is the nature of life; there is an end to everything.
But there is no end to my love.
Let me do everything I can, to convey this message:
My son, I will love you until the end of time. I love you for eternity. Nothing you do will change my love for you. I may be sad and disappointed by your behavior and choices, but I will always love you. Always.
You don't have to win my love through "good" behavior. I already love you. I love you for who you are today, right now.
My love for you is not based upon fulfillment of my hopes and dreams for you. I love you now, even with your imperfections, just as I hope you will love me with my imperfections.
You don't have to earn my love. My love is there no matter what you do.
I love you for who you are, always and forever.
Now give yourself the same kind of unconditional love.