It is soooo difficult to combat the prevailing behaviorist mentality that if you show love, you are rewarding bad behavior and the bad behavior will be reinforced.
The truth is, punishing ONLY treats the behavior and provides a very strong incentive to move away from the punisher and learn how to not get caught the next time.
Emotion coaching treats the underlying reasons for behavior and preserves dignity while it teaches better ways of coping with overwhelming emotions. Emotion coaching provides a strong incentive to move closer to the validating, understanding, emotion coaching person and learn how to get along better.
Emotion coaching=fewer battles. Thank you, John Gottman!!!!!!
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